Stop Trying to Control Your Ex

Let’s face it: most of us don’t handle rejection very well. So when it comes to getting dumped by your ex, all bets are off. What I mean by that is, if you’re not able to handle rejection in everyday life, having someone reject you emotionally and romantically can be devastating.

But did you realize that this behavior is not doing you any favors? In fact, there are certain things you are probably doing right now that are counter-intuitive and damaging to your prospects of getting your ex back.

You see, what you’re really missing after a breakup is control. You have absolutely no control over the situation and you don’t know what to do. The one thing you really want right now is to be able to get your ex back, resume your relationship, and get on with your life. However, that isn’t going to happen, unfortunately.

One of the biggest mistakes you can make is trying to force the situation. When your natural instinct takes over and tries to remedy things, it can land you in big trouble. Instead of trying to get a handle on their own emotions, they’re trying to force the situation and the outcome. Do this, and your ex is just going to keep resisting even more.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

One thing you have to realize is that the only thing you truly have control over is yourself. Continuously calling your ex or texting them is not going to solve your problems. However, if you take the more sensible approach, there are things that you can do right now that are going to make you more attractive in the eyes of your ex.

You really have to start making changes within in order to have success with the things that you can’t control.

Did you know that it’s probably your own insecurities that drive you to wanting to change your ex?

Make yourself a promise to look at things differently. Promise yourself to start managing the situation from a different perspective. For example, you could try changing certain things about your appearance in order to attract your ex again.

You really don’t have much choice in the situation. You can continue to force things, or you can try and change them from the inside out. By that, I mean changing things about yourself. If you think there’s nothing that you can do to change, guess again.

The alternative is to have your your ex and your relationship slip through your fingers. Is that really what you want? Is it not worth trying to change? Of course it is.

Did you know that the very first step you have to take in attracting your ex back is to change how they perceive you? And it all starts with making yourself more attractive. I don’t mean to be so superficial, but that’s the way the world works. If you’re wondering where to start, here’s a great article that addresses the question, “How can I make myself more attractive and win my ex back?”