It’s Within Your Reach to Get Your Ex Back

I understand what you’re going through, I’ve been there. Things look pretty bad right now, but you need to realize that you can’t just repeat the past. That is what got you here in the first place. Finding the main reason for your split, and dealing with it is crucial. You have to stop trying to force things with your ex by trying to change their thoughts or feelings. Are you wondering exactly what your options are?

The best thing you can do is to change the way you’re acting. This may sound way too simple to work, but it does. It works, that is, as long as you don’t return to those same bad habits. It’s important to know that if you keep doing these things, you will only end up alone.

Here are two tips that will really help you:

1. Stop, and take a good look at where you currently are. Ask yourself what is working, and what is not? If you find that everything is working for you, just continue on the steady path. If not, however, a major change may be in order. I’m not talking about tweaking what you are currently doing, I mean a drastic change. Start by doing what you do now, just completely opposite. There is no quicker way to get someone’s attention, including your ex. For example, if you are the kind of person that is constantly ringing your ex to try and patch things up, stop calling completely. I am not saying cut back on the number of times you call them, or only call a few times a week. When I say drastic, I mean cold turkey, no more calls. If there is a time where you have to make a call, just get straight to business with no small talk.

2. You have a very realistic chance at getting your ex back. You have to, however, be humble in realizing what is working, and what is not. This will let you approach the situation with a new level of confidence to really change up the way things are going. You have to catch your ex’s eye, and make them want to approach you if you ever want to get them back. No amount of forcing the situation will help, no matter how much you want it to.

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Will My Ex Come Back to Me?

Ever Find Yourself Wondering “Will My Ex Come Back To Me?”
The easiest way to answer this question is by looking at oneself and asking “If I were my ex, would I want to come back to me?” Are you still that fun, free spirited person your ex fell in love with? Often time, the sheer resentment and heartache of a breakup will change a person. You may find yourself more angry, or jaded than you ever were before. Do you really think that anyone would want to be with a person like that?

The first thing you need to do is look a little into the future, a few months down the line. Ask yourself “where do I want to be?” Don’t worry about whether your ex will come back to you – what are your personal goals? Are you still planning on being miserable and lonely, or would you rather be like your old happy self again? The answer is obvious, but there really is no good reason to wait a few months.

You need to start by totally changing the way you do everything. Instead of dwelling on the negative of what happened, focus on the positive of what can come. You have all that time free now, you could do anything you ever enjoyed doing. A lot of people get to spend more time with their friends and family, or take up a new and interesting hobby. This is really a time for self exploration and awareness; basically, you need to find yourself.

When you do this, you get past the biggest roadblock in your way: the waiting game. Before you were just sitting around, feeling sorry for yourself, and waiting for your ex to come back. Now, you know the answer to your question “will my ex come back to me?” It’s all up to you, and your willingness to stick to the plan. Don’t fall back to the things that got you in this mess in the first place. When your ex sees how much you have changed, and just how much fun you are, they will be running back. Don’t be surprised if this happens a lot quicker than you previously thought.

How to Get Your Ex Back Like a Jujitsu Master

So you may be thinking to yourself, what does being a Jujitsu master have one lick to do with how to get your ex back. Trust me, this isn’t some gimmick to get you to start a martial arts class, just trust me on this one. One of the founding concepts of jujitsu is to take an opponent’s energy and use it against them. For example, let’s pretend your arm is locking in tight with another, kind of like arm wrestling. Whatever happens, you need to keep pushing with all your might against his oncoming force. One thing you can learn from jujitsu in this situation that you can easily apply to your relationship is how to “give in” a little – this will surprise your opponent and you can easily turn things around. The key is to use their strength in a way they’re not expecting – against them.

I’m going to shed some light on how to use this technique when you try to get your ex back. Just like in the example, you need to stop pushing back. This means no more fights or bickering about small things, no matter how right you are. This also means that being needy and clingy are out of the question – and there is never a good excuse to look for reasons to “run into each other”.

This is just the first step in throwing your ex off guard – next, you want to reverse what you have been feeling and act happy and joyful with life. You should even start to consider going on a date. This, of course, is not to find someone to replace your ex, but instead to really boost your self-confidence and get you in a more positive mindset.

When your ex sees how amazing you are doing, there will be nothing they can do to stop themselves from coming back to you. There will be this initial confrontation, but don’t stress about it. Just remember your jujitsu training and things will work out just as you planned. When thinking about how to get your ex back, I hope you begin to realize it’s not as hard as you once thought.

What Are The Chances of Getting Back With An Ex?

The chances of getting back with an ex – well, it totally depends on whether you’re ready to make some changes in your approach. If you are, then the chances are greatly in your favor, if you’re not, then you might as well just move on now. You broke up for some reason, right? Some core issues – maybe boredom, maybe because you fight all the time, maybe because of parenting issues, perhaps infidelity, maybe finances – whatever it was, there was a reason.

The likelihood of you guys ever totally resolving that issue is pretty slim. That’s right, it’s not likely you’ll ever totally agree on everything. There are many issues in a relationship that in fifty years of marriage you won’t ever change. Does that mean the relationship is doomed? No. Not at all. It just means that you have to learn to live with disagreements – even on fundamental issues. In the end, you have to ask yourself, “If my ex won’t agree with me on this issue, is it worth losing them over?” If the answer is yes, well then, certainly move on. But if not, then you just have to learn to let it go and compromise because, fundamentally, you may never see eye-to-eye on that issue. So, instead of focusing on your ex, I want you to spend this time apart focusing on you. Get back to being happy, confident and self-reliant – like you were when you first met your ex. Isn’t that what attracted them to you in the first place? If you don’t get your head right and focus on you, then all you will do is continue to push your ex away.

The chances of getting back with ex can be much better than you realize if you are just willing to make some changes. You see, you both have a lot vested in your relationship already, but you have to give your ex the reasons to want to give you another chance – and that is something you have to show her, you can’t tell her.